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Social, Personal and Health Education (SPHE) · 2nd Year

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Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

As second-year students navigate the complexities of expanding social circles and burgeoning romantic interests, understanding the foundations of healthy relationships becomes paramount. This topic focuses on Learning Outcomes 3.1 and 3.2, guiding students to identify the core pillars of respect, trust, and equality. It moves beyond a simple list of 'dos and don'ts' to help students recognize the subtle nuances of how people treat one another in friendships, families, and dating.

NCCA Curriculum SpecificationsSPHE LO 3.1: Identify the characteristics of healthy relationshipsSPHE LO 3.2: Recognise the signs of unhealthy or abusive relationships
20–40 minPairs → Whole Class3 activities

Activity 01

Gallery Walk35 min · Whole Class

Gallery Walk: Relationship Spectrum

Post various relationship behaviors on the walls (e.g., 'Checking your partner's phone,' 'Supporting a friend's new hobby'). Students walk around and place stickers to categorize them as Healthy, Unhealthy, or 'It Depends,' followed by a class discussion.

What makes a relationship healthy?
UnderstandApplyAnalyzeCreateRelationship SkillsSocial Awareness
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Activity 02

Inquiry Circle40 min · Small Groups

Inquiry Circle: The Respect Radar

Groups are given fictional case studies of friendships or dating pairs. They must identify three 'green flags' (positive signs) and three 'red flags' (concerning signs) in the dialogue and suggest how the characters could improve their dynamic.

What are the red flags of an unhealthy relationship?
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Activity 03

Think-Pair-Share20 min · Pairs

Think-Pair-Share: Defining Trust

Students write their own definition of trust in a relationship. They share with a partner to find commonalities and then work together to list three specific actions that build trust and three that break it.

How does mutual respect look in practice?
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A few notes on teaching this unit


Watch Out for These Misconceptions

  • Jealousy is a sign of how much someone loves you.

    Many teens mistake possessiveness for passion. Active analysis of scenarios helps students see that extreme jealousy is actually a sign of insecurity and a lack of trust, which are hallmarks of unhealthy relationships.

  • Healthy relationships don't have any conflict.

    Students often think a 'perfect' relationship means never fighting. Through peer discussion, they can learn that healthy relationships involve 'fair fighting' where disagreements are handled with respect and a goal of resolution.


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